The super “soapy” idea of falling in and out of love, of floating emotions overwhelming you, making you a desirable partner in every area is certainly as far removed from reality as Venus is from Mars.
Love is a commitment, love is work, love has no room for selfishness or for your own agenda or your own comfort. Think for a moment about a mother, better still, a mother of twins! Could you for one moment doubt that she loves the two babies more than her own life? Yet there is nothing glamorous about this love. It is 100% giving of her time, effort, knowledge, and care. Of course there is another side, of course there is excitement, fulfilment, laughther and joy! However, that doesn’t always happen simultaneously with the giving. Sometimes, the joy is preceded by many days and even years of giving.
Jesus taught in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”A far cry from humanistic thought which is all about my rights. So sad that the demands for my rights cause love and fulfilment to elude me, for, it is in giving that we receive. In loving, we experience love, not the other way round.
If you have been influenced by selfish thinking in terms of your dearest relationships, think again. Don’t lose the relationship because of unrealistic demands and expectations from your side. If you want the relationship to work, don’t wait for the other party to move first, to serve first, to be the first to show love.Love never returns empty! No issue is more important than the relationship!
Have you ever experienced the pain of saying goodbye to a loved one, whether in death or simply for a few weeks or months! It hurts, doesn’t it? But it doesn’t kill, it strengthens. It causes you to dig deep for the great memories, the joys, the precious moments together, the growth you experienced because of that person. Love transcends time and distance. True love fills you up while you are giving it out, it heals you while you are mending another. True love is inevitably a taste of the Divine because God is love.
It has never been and will never be mans’ invention. It has been tainted by man, given a wrong definition and twisted by selfish desires. Love is not easy when you try to fabricate it, yet it’s easy when you reflect it! True love is a simply a reflection of God’s love for you to others. When you experience the Fathers’ love for you, it is easy to love others easily and freely.
Whoever said loving is easy? God made it easy by giving His Son Jesus to die in our place thus enabling us to taste love and having tasted it, to spread it to others! We can breathe deeply, relax and focus our attention on the One who loved us first. Experiencing His love will cause us to love, without effort, simply reflecting!